All spreadsChildren and hobbies

Children

Ten cards about your child and your bond: how the child feels, what goes unsaid, what they expect from you and where your relationship is growing.

Take it for the bond with a child of any age, not an infant who cannot yet speak.

Cards
10
Minutes
14
Reversals
On
AI reading
3 credits
12345678910
Lay out this spread

Cards and meanings are free. An AI reading of this spread costs 3 credits.

How to read it

The top row is the child alone: how they feel, what is happening with their body and strength, what is going on in their head. Read it separately, without mixing in your fears. The middle row is the space between you: the unsaid, their view of you, their expectation and what stands across the way. The answer usually lives here. The bottom row is your part: what you already give, what to change in yourself and where all this is growing. If the expectation card and your contribution card are far apart, you are giving what the child does not need and trying in vain.

Positions

  1. How the child feels

    The child's inner state right now, regardless of what they answer when asked.

  2. Body and strength

    Whether the child has enough sleep, movement and quiet, and where their body is overloaded.

  3. What is on their mind

    What occupies their mind: school, friendship, play, hurt, or a thought they keep turning.

  4. What goes unsaid

    What the child keeps quiet about, fearing your reaction or lacking the words.

  5. How they see you

    What kind of parent you look like in their eyes right now, not in general.

  6. What they expect

    What the child truly needs from you: protection, freedom, attention or a plain conversation.

  7. What stands between

    The obstacle between you: another person, an old quarrel, tiredness or your workload.

  8. What you already give

    Your real contribution to the child, received even when it is never thanked for.

  9. What to change in yourself

    The habit or reaction of yours whose end would fastest restore the child's trust.

  10. Where it is growing

    What your relationship becomes in a year if nothing is deliberately changed.

More spreads: Children and hobbies