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Divorce

Thirteen cards in three columns: the marriage itself, your road afterwards and your partner's. For a decision already being discussed but not yet finally taken.

Take it once divorce is already being discussed seriously, not as a way to test a marriage's strength.

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13
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25
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How to read it

Read the central column downward first: what the marriage is today, the real cause of the break, and what stays shared whatever you decide. Card two rarely matches the cause you name out loud. Then read the side columns downward, as two parallel lives. The key pair is eight and thirteen: each of you a year from now. Compare them with card one; if a year later both sides are lighter, the decision is already made and only its form remains. If both are heavier, read card three again before anything else.

Positions

  1. The marriage today

    What your union has become as of today, without memories of what it once was.

  2. The real cause

    What is actually ending this marriage, as opposed to the reason you both name aloud.

  3. What stays shared

    What still binds you after the divorce: children, money, obligations, a shared memory.

  4. Your decision

    How far the decision to divorce is genuinely yours, not dictated by exhaustion or other people.

  5. Your fear

    What you fear most in this divorce: solitude, money, judgement, or your own freedom.

  6. What you lose

    What leaves your life along with the marriage, including what you took for granted.

  7. What you gain

    What becomes available to you after the divorce that the marriage did not allow.

  8. You in a year

    Your state and your circumstances roughly a year after the decision is final.

  9. Their decision

    How ready your partner truly is for divorce and what they are actually choosing.

  10. Their fear

    What your partner fears and how that fear shapes their behaviour in the negotiations.

  11. What they lose

    What the marriage takes from your partner when it ends, including what they cannot yet see.

  12. What they gain

    What your partner gains after the divorce and why they may hold to this decision.

  13. Them in a year

    Where your partner stands about a year later and how that still touches you.

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