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Reflection

Nine cards on either side of a mirror. The upper row is what you see in your partner, the lower row what it reflects back in you, the centre the mirror itself.

Take it not for facts about your partner, but to see what their behaviour reveals in you.

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How to read it

Read in vertical pairs through the centre: one with six, two with seven, three with eight, four with nine. The upper card of each pair is what you attribute to your partner; the lower is what that touches in you. A strong reaction always points to your own material, which makes the three-eight pair the most uncomfortable and the most useful. Card five in the centre explains why you need this mirror at all and what it is teaching you. When the top and bottom of a pair share a suit, the reflection is exact and arguing with it is pointless.

Positions

  1. What you see in them

    The first thing you name when you describe this person to somebody else.

  2. What you admire

    The quality in your partner you sincerely admire and do not permit yourself.

  3. What irritates you

    The trait in your partner that angers you far more than the occasion deserves.

  4. What you overlook

    Something important in your partner you have walked past for years, taking it for granted.

  5. The mirror

    Why precisely this person was given to you and what their presence is teaching.

  6. Who you become

    The person you become beside them: better, smaller, or simply someone else.

  7. Your sleeping strength

    Your own quality, shown to you through the behaviour of theirs you admire.

  8. Your shadow

    The part of you their irritating behaviour touches, and which is asking to be admitted.

  9. What you miss in yourself

    Your own strong side, plainly visible to everyone around you except yourself.

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